Last night I received a really interesting phone call at 3 in the morning by a good friend of mine. Probably not the greatest things to hear right before I go to sleep, but I'm glad he called. He told me some things pertaining to a person whom I used to know very well. Some things that really shocked me. Never would I have imagined how someone could change so much. Maybe I was just naive before and I couldn't see it. Maybe I changed the person. Maybe that person was like that all along. Anyways, it really made me think about people and their covers.
First impressions are hardly right. Many of my closest friends now are people whom I couldn't stand in the beginning. I used to be so quick to judge someone based on the first time I met them, and then I realized that it is impossible to judge a person's character by just a few simple interactions. Some people give off a wrong vibe in the beginning, but the more I got to know them, the more I liked them. Everyone deserves a chance and that is something I am still working on. Don't be so quick to judge a person. Nothing is completely black and white.
On the other hand, you think you know someone so well, and then you find out that that person isn't who he/she claims to be. That's called disappointment. Why is it that people try so hard to hide who they really are? If they are ashamed of that side of them, then why be it at all. What happened to honesty and being real with others, but most importantly with yourself. I don't understand why people try to project a certain image of themselves, when in fact, that is not that who they really are. Perhaps peer pressure, mixed with popular media and low self-esteem are drivers of such behavior. Hello! We are not getting any younger. It's time to wake up, take a good look at yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself "Is this who I really am?" "Do I like who I am?" If your answers are no and no, then change. Start becoming the person who you want and aspire to be. It's never too late to become better.
I'm also intrigued by how fake people can be. I've seen too many girls act all nice and sweet in front of a person whom they actually cannot stand. Then they go behind each others' backs and talk shit about one another. Just be real. If you don't like that person, then don't. Stop pretending. Ｉ was once guilty of this, but then I came to realize who gives a shit what someone I don't like thinks of me. So pretty much if I don't like you (which doesn't happen often), you know I really don't and I will not pretend to do so. I think what I am trying to say is that it is important for people to care about what others think about them to some extent, but it's also important to be true to yourself. Something to think about.
So in the end, that saying "don't judge a book by its cover" is in fact, very wise. Don't be fooled by outside appearances because those appearances could merely be projections of lies. Open the book, read it, and then make your judgment.
